David: I understand completely if this is taken as a stand-alone comment. But we were discussing the refusal of some to acknowledge that we are all connected. I try my best to be inclusive of everyone. My goal is to help each person BOTH shine individually and also help uplift the world. Thank you for your interest and lovely thoughts. I truly appreciate them!
"When I think about what I love most about other people’s clothes, it’s the small, unexpected details - a woman with a blue tint in her hair, glasses in an odd-but-perfect shape, a skirt with layered pleats, a print that makes you pause. Bold earrings, a scarf tied just so, a necklace that finishes the outfit like punctuation"
Yes, yes, yes. These are the things that pull me in too. And I shop for things like this, because they're usually the things that I find have an eternal appeal.
Love this. It is how I feel when I meet women in Australia (Newcastle) in meetings and they've put themselves into their outfit. It's a visual hello and a nod to ourselves and each other.
I also watched part of Gabrielle's interview with David Kibbe. I was a little bit shocked at something he said and I am afraid to say I disagreed with it. He said, those who say "I just wear what I want" are narcissists. I feel rather that they do wear what they want in a similar way, as a visual cue or hello, and don't entirely realise it's so social. I am neurodivergent and sometimes it can be very important to us to put 'us' in the outfit, rather than fit in. That is not to put ourselves above one another, but rather, present our real self, and hopefully find those who connect with that. Because connection IS important, and clothes are a part of it.
Lastly I disagreed with Kibbe, because I feel it's dangerous to put such a loaded, negative, mental health term on someone choosing what they wear. It just stops discussion to say that, it seems very stifling. And I never believed I would be disagreeing with a legend EVERYONE follows. Maybe I have misinterpreted.
David Kibbe: That is a misinterpretation in that it is taken out of context. I firmly believe, and have said over and over again that everyone should wear what they want. In fact, the way I say this actually is that I want everyone to LOVE what that wear. My comment was about learning the most fulfilling approach is about SHARING that love with the world.
I firmly believe those things too and I am sorry if I have misunderstood you.
But I still felt uncomfortable about how you quite casually threw that very negative and loaded term, at the kind of people who just say "I wear what I want" without thinking. That's quite a lot of ordinary people. Please understand. I simply don't want anyone feeling lessened.
I remain surprised that I'd disagree with you as you have done so much for others overall. My apologies if I am getting you wrong.
David: I understand completely if this is taken as a stand-alone comment. But we were discussing the refusal of some to acknowledge that we are all connected. I try my best to be inclusive of everyone. My goal is to help each person BOTH shine individually and also help uplift the world. Thank you for your interest and lovely thoughts. I truly appreciate them!
"When I think about what I love most about other people’s clothes, it’s the small, unexpected details - a woman with a blue tint in her hair, glasses in an odd-but-perfect shape, a skirt with layered pleats, a print that makes you pause. Bold earrings, a scarf tied just so, a necklace that finishes the outfit like punctuation"
Yes, yes, yes. These are the things that pull me in too. And I shop for things like this, because they're usually the things that I find have an eternal appeal.
Love this. It is how I feel when I meet women in Australia (Newcastle) in meetings and they've put themselves into their outfit. It's a visual hello and a nod to ourselves and each other.
I also watched part of Gabrielle's interview with David Kibbe. I was a little bit shocked at something he said and I am afraid to say I disagreed with it. He said, those who say "I just wear what I want" are narcissists. I feel rather that they do wear what they want in a similar way, as a visual cue or hello, and don't entirely realise it's so social. I am neurodivergent and sometimes it can be very important to us to put 'us' in the outfit, rather than fit in. That is not to put ourselves above one another, but rather, present our real self, and hopefully find those who connect with that. Because connection IS important, and clothes are a part of it.
Lastly I disagreed with Kibbe, because I feel it's dangerous to put such a loaded, negative, mental health term on someone choosing what they wear. It just stops discussion to say that, it seems very stifling. And I never believed I would be disagreeing with a legend EVERYONE follows. Maybe I have misinterpreted.
David Kibbe: That is a misinterpretation in that it is taken out of context. I firmly believe, and have said over and over again that everyone should wear what they want. In fact, the way I say this actually is that I want everyone to LOVE what that wear. My comment was about learning the most fulfilling approach is about SHARING that love with the world.
I firmly believe those things too and I am sorry if I have misunderstood you.
But I still felt uncomfortable about how you quite casually threw that very negative and loaded term, at the kind of people who just say "I wear what I want" without thinking. That's quite a lot of ordinary people. Please understand. I simply don't want anyone feeling lessened.
I remain surprised that I'd disagree with you as you have done so much for others overall. My apologies if I am getting you wrong.